“But I am learning that perfection isn’t what matters. In fact, it’s the very thing that can destroy you if you let it.” -Emily Griffin
One of my biggest struggles in life is perfectionism. Even writing this is a struggle against my flesh which strives to want to appear perfect. The fact is that I know I am not perfect and I never will be yet there is this false security the world likes to feed us that we can be perfect. I will be the first to admit my struggle with perfectionism started in my childhood. I always wanted to do and say the right things. It was expected of me to do and say the right things. I was also expected to hide my weaknesses.
I desire to have the greenest lawn, the best behaved child, the best job, the best clothes, etc. When in reality grass burns, children embarrass you, and having the best job and clothes is perception based. At times we may give up on something really important because we aren’t doing it as good or fast as other people are.
Life can be especially hard for women who have been spoon fed the idea of appearing perfect. We are bombarded with the world telling us we have to be better than what we are. As if who we are is never good enough. There are plastic surgeons that entice our vanity to be women we were never born to become. Then we have other Doctors that try to convince us that a pill can help us live better.
Maybe it’s just me but I am well aware that surgery or pills will not change who I am and the problems I face. There is this false sense of happiness that is going around faster than gossip on a Monday morning.
I will also admit my struggle with perfectionism is not rational. Rejection tends to make a person more open to think they need to be someone they were not meant to be. It can be a dangerous outcome for the person who thinks ‘they will like me if‘ I am prettier, skinnier, stronger, better dressed, smarter, etc. Sadly I have been deceived into thinking that if I was all these things then I would be more accepted or even loved.
I am not writing this because I have the answer…I clearly don’t. I could tell you that you just have to be happy with who you are and not worry about anyone else. Seriously, does that work for anyone?? The only thing I know for sure is that God made me for a special purpose as it is written in Psalm 139.
I am writing this because I know I am not the only one who has fell into this deception. I am also writing this because as Christians I think too many of us have hid our greatest struggles in life. I refuse to do that anymore! We are called the body of Christ. We were meant to do life with one another and cannot keep hiding these things from our fellow Brothers and Sisters in Christ.
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